Less a question, more a dilemma - that we all face.
Dear Jazzy
So there’s this girl right! I’ve always found her captivating and attractive and I think I had a chance one time to connect with her and totally blew it because I was scared that a connection might actually be possible. You see the thing I want most is also the thing I’m most terrified of: Love. Such a simple little word with so much more meaning than the complicated words. This armor I’ve been wearing to defend against this so called love is getting to heavy so I’m not wearing it anymore. So to summarize this I say bring it on I’m not scared and I want in on this whole love life thing that I’ve been avoiding.
Carpe Diem Knight in Heavy Armor! -
Put the artillery away, lower your shield, and show your face. The first step in accepting love is being willing to it. Allow yourself to be vulnerable. It’s going to hurt, but it won’t kill you.
You can get right in line with the millions of other people that are more terrified of love than death. Or you can stand up to it and finally attain what you say you want most.
To receive love you need to give love. To give love you need to love yourself. To love yourself you need to know and accept yourself. Be confident in who you are.
Sometimes we confuse loving someone with needing someone. If you feel comfortable and confident with whom you are: you learn to live on your own, you learn to survive alone, and feel good about this, then you might find it easier to open yourself up to the bigger picture. It feels less intense and less like you are taking a risk with no return.
Try not to put all your swords in one sheath (they probably won’t all fit in there anyway lol). Don’t let love be the only thing in your life. Keep friends, family, coworkers, strangers, at an arm’s length. Keep your own hobbies and interests all the while slowly building a relationship with someone you love. Try not to let this one love be the ONLY place you focus your energy.
You can love more than one person at a time. There are different loves. The love you feel for your mom might not be the same love you feel for your best friend. The love you feel for your animal won’t be the same love you feel for your brother. Allow yourself to love more than one so if it doesn’t work out, you have other places to focus your love.
Lastly, I fully believe – it’s a risk worth taking.
Friends, how can we help our Knight feel better about taking a risk of love ?
~Jazzy~
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If you are no longer 'scared', then what is the purpose of your post? Seeing as this is an advice-giving blog, my advice is to stop lying to yourself (I believe you're still 'scared'), get over the girl you blew it with, and work getting some self-confidence. Being 'afraid' of love, to me means you just may not be the type that ever wants to be tied down, and that's okay. Some people live perfectly happy lives single, doesn't mean you can't get laid now and then ;)
ReplyDeleteYou may want to consider doing some energetic healing such as Chakra Cleansing or seeing a Reiki Practitioner who can help you release some of that armoring in your heart center.
ReplyDeleteWhat exactly is it you are asking? You say you are not wearing this "armor" anymore, you say you are not scared of love now.
ReplyDeleteMy question to you is:
"Why are you not stepping up to the plate and chatting up this lass and getting what you have been scared of all this time?"
You say you want to feel "love" and enjoy all that "love" can provide for you, yet you still seem to run for the hills.
I believe you still have skeletons from your past you need to clean out else you will never truly drop your armor as you have said you have done.